Empathy and ASPERGER’S

I’ve heard that people think those of us with Autism seem to lack empathy. This is far from true. I think this idea comes from what people think emotion is.

I will say that I struggle with emotions. I don’t show them and even when I was a kid people used to think I wasn’t having fun because I never showed it. But just because I don’t show emotion doesn’t mean I don’t have it.

I am a very logical thinker, I prefer reason before feeling. Sometimes I prefer the hard reality to idealism. I tend to route for the predator rather than the prey but that’s because I understand nature and how everything has a place in it. The predator needs to eat and in order for it to eat, something has to die.

I don’t show emotions because I don’t really know how. I’m not overly affectionate and I don’t really know how to comfort someone who is upset. I feel awkward when people are crying around me, I just don’t know what to do. But that doesn’t mean I don’t care, and I am certainly sympathetic. I feel bad when people are unhappy, and I will say as much, so even if I don’t show it, you have to simply take me at my word.

I can’t handle conflict well, I tend to develop anxiety quickly when I think there is tension. I am very empathetic towards peoples vibes. I can sense when people are upset just by walking in the room and sensing it. So I am certainly not clueless towards that, it’s just I lack the ability to express what I am feeling well.

Except in writing. Whereas I struggle to show emotion outwardly, I do not struggle with it when it comes to my writing. Emotion is very much my ultimate weapon when it comes to writing. I am very good at understanding and utilizing emotion, getting in deep with feeling, and really making readers feel things.

So I think the whole thing about people with Asperger’s lacking emotion is incorrect. Just because we may not show it doesn’t mean we can’t be moved by something just as deeply as anyone else. And just because we can be a little blunt doesn’t mean we aren’t sympathetic.


Written by My Little Corner of Everything

I am a writer and a graphic designer who has a lot to say about life! I am a woman in her 30's who lives in California with her husband. Most of all, I am an explorer. I express myself through the written word and the visual world. I have Aspergers but I don't see it as a 'disability' but rather, an identity. It is who I am.

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